"Adolescence is the bird that sometimes flies with its head in the clouds and sometimes too close to the ground." – Victoria Morozan
Adolescence is the period of challenges, in this stage the most beautiful friendships are formed, the personality is shaped and the desire for independence is accentuated.
During adolescence, important hormonal changes take place aimed at preparing the brain and body for adulthood, and the prefrontal cortex, responsible for planning, prioritization, decision-making, reaches maturity (up to the age of 20).
The teenager is now focused on physical appearance, gives more importance to the clothing he adopts, emphasizes the image he creates in the circle of friends, spends more time on gadgets and in the company of friends, and distances himself from family members. .
Teenagers feel like they are on a roller coaster that they often cannot control, with sudden changes in behavior that they themselves cannot explain, with rebellion in relationships with others or feel discriminated against, excluded, stigmatized or have bullying.
Also at this stage they tend to break rules, to test things that were not allowed to them such as tobacco and alcohol, they express their feelings through music/art, it is the time when they fall in love, and in certain situations unwanted pregnancies appear.
How do we cope as parents? The parent now feels that he is losing control, he becomes overwhelmed by the abundance of new situations that he has to deal with, right for which communication, empathy, security and the certainty that the parent will be with him in any context, active listening, giving confidence in the adolescent's decisions, the compromise in exchange for the imposition, make the period of adolescence be passed with more serenity.
Quarrels, reconciliations, crazies, friendships, dramas, laughs, cries, emotions, it's all in one word ….. Adolescence!
Psychologist Carmen Mariana Ardeleanu
