"Living people do not apologize for their emotions. They accept their feelings as part of their 'human baggage', embrace them and go with them on their journey."- Shevrilere
Emotions are short-term mental reactions, through personal reporting on a context, positive or negative. Primary emotions (happiness, fear, sadness, anger, disgust, surprise) and secondary (shame, pride, pleasure, jealousy, guilt) are felt at the body level through physical and physiological changes and changes, which influence both the behavior and the thinking of the who experiences them. The inability to control emotions is closely related to one's own constraints that limit beliefs and thoughts.
The role of knowing emotions and relating to them helps us understand the reactions that occur to events in our lives, we learn to act constructively in crisis situations, reduce stress, avoid physical and/or mental illnesses, build harmonious relationships and well-being on long term.
Let's recognize together the forms of emotions and bodily reactions:
Happiness - tingling in the body, you feel like you are "floating", you smile, tears of joy, cry of happiness;
Fear - heart beats fast, mouth goes dry, pupils dilate, abdominal discomfort occurs, fight - run - freeze;
Sadness – pain in the chest, inner emptiness, lack of energy, crying, looking down, wrinkles in the forehead area;
Anger – trembling, facial flushing and frowning, muscle tension, swearing;
Disgust – abdominal discomfort, raising of nostrils and clenching of teeth;
Startle – empty stomach, holding breath, startling at an unexpected sight/event, raising and arching eyebrows, mouth open.
Effective strategies to manage emotions in a healthy and useful way can include:
engaging in positive self-talk
thought before action (pause and reflection, then reaction)
discover what triggered the emotion, what the role of the emotion is for you at that moment
come back in positive energy and rewrite the "scenario"
don't chase away or repress emotions, and whenever you feel overwhelmed by strong emotions that you can't deal with, seek professional support.
These strategies may be a small step for you but a big step for establishing solid relationships with those around you.
How do you relate to your emotions?
Live... through emotion and from emotion!
Carmen Mariana Ardeleanu, psychologist
