"Associate with quality people if you want to have a good reputation, better to be alone than in a bad environment." George Washington
Many times the question arises among parents how to ensure that the child's surroundings are the right one and that he will follow the steps of the 7-year-olds learned from the family environment. Today, more than ever, temptations to deviate from norms and rules are present.
What makes the difference in the environment is the behavior learned in early childhood, when cognitive-emotional-social skills develop. It can be encouraging that it is in the parent's power to form, educate, raise, a balanced child, with well-defined and rooted values.
The influence of the environment takes shape during adolescence, when it is possible for the adolescent to go through an identity crisis. He will well overcome the influence of a negative environment when he has emotional connection, freedom of choice, understanding and support from family reference people.
Entourage can also have positive values when we talk about an inadequate family environment, where physical or verbal violence is present, the group of friends becomes the communicational and emotional support.
The first signs of the wrong environment are: low self-esteem, the fact that he is always nervous, agitated, behavior characterized by lying and stealing, hiding things, losing interest in certain school or extracurricular activities, avoiding interaction with the family, changing his habits, having hostile, violent attitude.
Poți să îi vii în sprijinul lui fiind prezent în mod activ atunci când are nevoie, să îl asculți fără să îl critici, să îi cunoști prietenii și să încurajezi vizitele acasă, trasează-i sarcini și responsabilități, fii atent la ce îl lași să vizioneze în online, oferă-i o alimentație corespunzătoare și implică-l în activități sportive.
Anturajul este o alegere ce îți schimbă viața!
Carmen Mariana Ardeleanu, psiholog
