I will begin our virtual meeting today by inviting you to spend time and reflection on Jason Mainsons quote “I believe the number one rule of effective communication should be 'choose your words wisely'. This is because a simple choice of your words can make a big difference and determine whether your message will be accepted or rejected.”
When we talk about communication differences, we think of norms, rules, strictures, what is or is not in accordance with our values, with the way to perceive and interpret the message sent/received.
The child, the young adolescent, gives different meanings to the messages received depending on the person who transmits them, the influence they exert in their life, the way the communication takes place. The messages we receive often have an emotional impact and help or hinder the future development of the young people in our lives.
By being a good listener and through adequate and effective communication, your child will receive the ticket to success, you will create with him the connection you both need, you will break down barriers and you will no longer have the refusal to be involved in tasks, you will be members of the same team of victors.
With love and gratitude, let's make a difference together, in communication with our loved ones.
Instead of telling the child "You are being punished!" try asking him "Do you want to talk about the reasons/cause for which you have been behaving like this lately?"
Repeated punishment versus focus on solving the cause that caused the problem.
Change the comparison between your child and others through support, appreciation and encouragement.
"Don't lean over the railing" with "When you lean over the railing you can lose your balance, fall and get hurt."
Do not choose silence after conflict, but communicate with your child.
Be the DIFFERENT version of YOU in communicating starting today!
Psychologist Carmen Mariana Ardeleanu
